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Getting Off Together: How To Go About Mutual Masturbation
Set the scene. You’re home with your partner(s) and in the mood. The lights slowly turn off, the music begins to fade, and you’re squirming with excitement. Now, put your hands together for a lively upcoming performance called mutual masturbation. The act is simple to follow: it’s one part getting yourself to climax with your own hands beside your partner(s), and the second part using your hands to pleasure your partner(s) while they do the same to you. You can call it a hands-on approach to sex. Jizz hands, not jazz hands. Eh, you get it.
Mutual masturbation is an intimate form or foreplay (or cumming to completion) that allows you and your partner(s) to move at your own paces. It’s comfortable and full-bodied, vulnerable and connective. It’s also severely underrated, as a lot of people forget that hands are a sensual part of the body you can accomplish a lot with.
Think of mutual masturbation as a front-row seat to your partner’s private show – only you’re both an audience member and an active performer. A willingness to explore and desire comes with the territory of masturbating together. Do you feel ready to take on this shared activity?
Whether you’re a first-timer of all things sexy and want to try something slow to start, or are long-term lovers looking to spice it up, the act of masturbating together is for everyone. Let your genitalia be the puppet and your hand ready to put on a show. Nothing feels better than a standing ovation (and orgasm).
Hot Tips For Masturbating Together
Since mutual masturbation is all about staying in control and incorporating tools you use daily, it’s not challenging to get super comfortable in a short window of time. It’s a versatile and meaningful activity that can transcend just solo play for your partner(s). Masturbating together is also not strictly for same-sex partners – all are included and can have their fun experimenting with the handsy approach. This article will guide you through prime pointers, potential risks, hot positions, and how to perform over a video call if meeting in person isn’t an option right now. So get those hands warm, even sweaty, because it’s time to enter the meat of the material.
Did you know? Masturbation is physically, and mentally, good for you! Learn more in The Hidden Health Benefits Of Masturbation.
Mutual Masturbation Recommendations
In order to release the performer inside of you, there are some best practices to keep in mind when masturbating with a partner. First off, it’s nice to mark the atmosphere with a comfortable and easy ambience – maybe a couple candles, a smooth jazz playlist, and a lot of blankets and pillows for sensory enjoyment. You can get into costume if you desire (some bunny ears or a blindfold is not far from the imagination).
You want to begin the soothing process by vocalizing how good it feels to touch yourself, and how turned on you feel. You can do this whether you’re getting yourself off or after asking for consent to touch your partner(s). Speaking about the experience out loud can make everyone feel more settled into the new masturbation moment. Let your partner(s) copy your moves, and you do the same to them. Narration is integral in catching the vibe.
For some techniques, try slowly pulling down your underwear and teasing your genitalia before revealing your parts down south to your partner(s). Then, suck on your fingers or trace down your body while you begin to fondle your intimate areas. Wrap your legs around your partner’s as you touch yourself – staying connected to the entire scenario. The Durex® Intense Bullet* can be used to stimulate your nipples or genital region while mutual masturbation takes place.
As an added benefit, check out three couples lubricants* that lead to smoother paths to pleasure. They’re bottles prepared for body massages that double as water-based masturbation buddies (if you want them to be). Turn your rubdowns into something more with lubes that have the wet factor.
Need solid advice on how to use lubes to your masturbation advantage? Read Handjob Well Done: Tips For Great Lubricated Handjobs to ignite yourself or your partner(s) with products that work for your pleasure and learn mutual handjob techniques.
Potential Risks Of Mutual Masturbation
Solo masturbation is one of the safest ways to achieve pleasure because you’re not in contact with other bodies. Mutual masturbation, however, has very slight risks attached. Bodily fluids, such as semen or vaginal fluids, can run the risk of STIs if direct contact is made. It’s always a smart idea to thoroughly scrub your hands before mutually pleasing one another, and use condom protection* before discharge makes its way onto genital areas (if that’s the direction the masturbation is going in).
Mutual Masturbation Positions To Try
Take the techniques to the next stage with these easy positions:
- Face-To-Face Connection – maintaining direct eye contact, sit comfortably across from your partner(s) and stretch your legs out. Begin by touching yourselves, then mirror each other’s movements to build a sense of synchronicity while looking at each other. Add a pillow behind you and hold one hand out to theirs for an erotic bonding moment.
- Side-By-Side Bliss – for a low pressure position, lie down next to one another facing different directions and use your hands to explore your body. You can also reach over to assist them. It allows for closeness without feeling too on display.
- Between The Legs – have one partner sit upright while the other sits between their legs, leaning back into their chest. From here, both partners can touch themselves while the partner behind wraps their arms around the one in front.
How To Masturbate Together Over A Video Call
When an in-person experience isn’t on the table at the moment, you can always attempt mutual masturbation over a video call. Lean into it by propping the phone against a flat wall or surface, then getting on your knees in front of it while you arch your back and touch yourself. Alternatively, you can position your device from a higher elevation point and stand naked before it – giving your body more flexibility to bend or dance with pleasure. Say things like “You don’t know how badly I want you right now if you were here…” or “Imagine these are your hands right now, touching me like this”. Ask your partner(s) what they want you to do and, if you’re comfortable with it, fulfill their fantasies.
Mutual Satisfaction Guaranteed
Are you feeling the mutual love? No matter if you’re dipping a curious toe in new waters or rediscovering your partner(s) with fresh hands, this intimate act proves that pleasure doesn’t always need to be a full production, or penetration. Sometimes, the best orgasm lies in simplicity and heavy breathing beside one another. Think of mutual masturbation as a team-building activity that everyone wins at. With the right amount of communication, rhythm, and lube, you can have a perfectly pleasurable time just using your touch alone. Happy exploring!
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